Nevertheless, the hard and deliberate work of knowing your spouse and loving him or her fittingly is foundational to any good marriage. Because our culture thinks of love as mainly an involuntary feeling and not a conscious action, this foundational skill is often missed entirely.
Taken with Instagram at San Francisco City Hall
Taken with Instagram at San Francisco City Hall
Taken with Instagram at San Francisco City Hall
Getting hair done! (Taken with Instagram at Mitri Hair Studio)
Sushi for Mother’s Day :) (Taken with instagram)
Learn the primary languages of your spouse and send love over those channels, not over the channels you prefer for yourself. We tend to give love through the channels in which we like to receive it.
The form of love is crucial
Some types of love are more thrilling and fulfilling to us when we receive them.
Why? Sometimes a particular form of love is more valuable because some significant person in your life was particularly inept at it. Sometimes a particular form of love is more valuable because some significant person in your life was particularly adept at it. Perhaps a form of love is crucial now because of your life circumstances.
Keller, Timothy (2011–11–01). The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (p. 146). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.
Love in the way she finds most emotionally valuable
It is not enough to simply say, “I love you.” Nor is it enough to give love to your spouse in the way to which you feel most accustomed. If you want to give a person $100, there are many ways to do so. You can give it in cash or by check or in gold or in kind. You can give it in different currencies. So you ask, “In which form do you want the hundred dollars?” In the same way you learn to give your spouse love in the way he or she finds most emotionally valuable and powerful.
Keller, Timothy (2011–11–01). The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (p. 144). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.
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